I know I generally try to stick to stitching topics here, but last night just got me so ANGRY....I must vent. Feel free to disregard......
So I'm a librarian....but I also lifeguard part-time. I've had my certifications since I was 16, and I get a little extra spending (stash!) money and a free gym membership out of the deal. I just can't throw in the towel yet...but last night got me darned close to doing so.
At the pool where I work, one of our most hard-and-fast rules is that children under 6 must have an adult in the water with them. So when I saw a girl of about 10 coming in with her toddler-aged brother, I asked her if her parents were coming. She said yes, and I told her that the little one needed to wait. Mom appears -- NOT wearing a bathing suit. I ask her, politely, if she will be joining her kids in the pool.
"I'm sorry, ma'am, but children under 6 must be accompanied by an adult in the water at all times, " I say, pointing at the big sign on the wall that says as much.
"So....someone over 18?"
"Uh....yeah." (sarcastic inner voice - that would be the definition of an adult...)
The woman looks in the pool, sees a man with his 2 young boys, and says, "What about him? Hey, would you watch him?"
The poor man mumbles, "uhhhhhhhhhhhummmmmmmkay.......", all the while looking at me with the universal "HELP!" look in his eyes.
"No. It needs to be a relative...someone who knows your son and his swimming abilities..." I'm flabbergasted that she considers this ok.
"Oh, now you're just mad that I found a way around your rules!"
"No, ma'am, I'm not. This isn't acceptable, plain and simple."
"Fine. I'm going to speak to your manager."
She proceeds to follow her older child up and down the pool deck while the girl swims laps, toddler - now crying and confused - in tow. As she stomps around, I ask, "would you like me to call the building supervisor? I'm sure he'd be glad to come back here and settle this."
She wheels and yells, "Oh, now you're just being smart. You just shut your smart mouth, missy!"
I'm flabbergasted again. I was honestly NOT being smart, I was trying to resolve the situation so she could get her son dressed, take him down to the kid-care room, LEAVE, whatever.
Anyway. She leaves with both kids. About half an hour later, she flies back in, sans kids.
"I spoke to the front desk. It does NOT say the adult has to be a relative. It does NOT. YOU can't make up rules."
I just smile. "I'm sorry. I will continue to enforce the rules as they were explained to me. Goodnight."
She leaves, still mumbling about how I don't know the rules, I'm a teen-ager who can't tell her what to do, blah blah blah.
So, am I the only one who thinks leaving your 2-year-old in the care of a stranger in the pool is a BAD idea? First of all, the man had 2 little ones of his own. he doesn't know your son - not even his name. And if your son is in trouble/needs help/etc, is he going to go to this man? Secondly, what if this man leaves? I then have to put your son on the bleachers, wet, cold, and alone. And thirdly...YOU DON'T KNOW THIS MAN. He could be any kind of pervy weirdo!! Ugh. I wouldn't care if it was you, your mother, your neighbor, a babysitter....the crucial issue is that the adult with your child be responsible for YOUR CHILD. Not just "keeping an eye on your child" while he's spending time with his own family. I swear, the world gets stupider every day.